Arkanas Online reports that “Jack Ruhl reached an agreement with the Roman Catholic Diocese of Joliet, Ill., over the epitaph on his mother’s gravestone, installing one that says she “supported priest sexual abuse victims” rather than victims of “rapist” priests.”
This follows a report on 30th Dec 2017 that “Couple leaves words ‘priest rapist’ off Wheaton cemetery headstone” –
“”She supported priest rapist victims” is not chiseled into the grave marker for Jack Ruhl’s mother.
Instead, the tombstone he and his wife, Diane Ruhl, installed at Assumption Cemetery in Wheaton a few days before Christmas says, “She supported priest sexual abuse victims.”
It’s a compromise the Michigan couple made with the Roman Catholic Diocese of Joliet, which called the proposed wording too explicit. Ruhl conceded that this was the best he could do for his mother, Marguerite N. Ridgeway of Lisle, who died in July 2015.
“Nowadays and for some time, there’s been so much ambiguity about what sexual abuse is,” Ruhl said in a phone interview Saturday. “I wanted to use the word rape because to me it stands for the most extreme, dehumanizing act one person can inflict upon another.”
Ridgeway converted to Catholicism after her marriage and was devout for many years until she learned of allegations that a priest had sexually abused Diane Ruhl, her daughter-in-law, Ruhl said.
Ridgeway closely monitored cases of sexual abuse by priests as they emerged in the 2000s, Jack Ruhl said.
In 2003, Diane Ruhl was among several women who filed lawsuits against a Jesuit priest at Loyola University accusing him of sexual abuse.
“The pain still lingers,” Jack Ruhl said. “It was really difficult because our faith was so important to us, and the rug was pulled out from under us.”
Though Ridgeway turned from the Catholic church, she still arranged to be buried in the cemetery owned by the Joliet Diocese because her daughter is buried there, Ruhl said. Ruhl said he believes his mother is pleased with the statement on her grave marker.
“If just one person, one child or one vulnerable adult — just one — is spared from what we’ve had to go through, then I’ve accomplished what I set out to accomplish,” Ruhl said.
A spokesman for the Joliet Diocese did not immediately return an email Saturday seeking comment.”